Working with Emotions

by meditative - April 25th, 2015

In our formal meditation practice- as we sit, feeling the breath, feeling sensations in the body- we need to be aware of different emotions as they arise in our direct observing experience. There might be the feeling of happiness or sadness; there might be the feeling of joy or depression. We might feel quite light or buoyant. We might feel heavy or despairing.

Whatever the emotional state, it can be opened to, noticed, and acknowledged. The practice is to be aware of any arising emotional states without ‘personalizing’, or identifying with them- not taking them to be “I” or “self” or “mine”, but seeing them simply as a stream of experience arising out of conditions. With our mindsight of free attention and open awareness, we can begin to see them lasting for some time, changing, disappearing in the form of sensations in the body; or particular thoughts or images associated with the emotion; or as a certain texture or coloration of the mind. Each emotion has its own particular ‘flavor’, the flavor of sadness or happiness or joy or love or anger. Our intention here is to openly and curiously explore all of these aspects.

In working with emotion in our practice, it’s important to first recognize what it is. Here, it can be very helpful to use mental ‘noting’ to bring forth clear recognition, this is happinessthis is sadnessthis is lonelinessthis is excitementthis is interestthis is boredom, etc. Clear recognition can be very helpful. If other thoughts arise and associate with this ‘noting’ or ‘naming’ process, simply practice again and again to the simple ‘noting’ or ‘naming’ itself.

When an emotion arises strongly in our experience, it’s useful to notice the different aspects of it. Feel the specific sensations in the body. Is there heat? Is the body contracted? Is it open? Is it soft? Notice whether there are particular images or thoughts associated with the emotion, and notice the “mind flavor” of the particular feeling. As best we can, it becomes deeply meaningful and revealing to try and open to the subtleties in the mind and body as each of these feelings arises.

At times we may not be able to clearly recognize what the emotion is. No need to agonize over the absence of revelation, we can simply open to the feeling with the general note of “feeling” or “emotion” until what it is becomes clearer.

Once we recognize then we need to accept. Here, there is often a tendency to resist or deny certain emotions, particularly if they’re unpleasant. There are certain emotions that we don’t like to feel. These can be different for each of us. In our practice, it’s important to recognize what’s arising and be accepting of whatever it is. It is acceptance that conditions our capacity for non-identification with our emotional states. These states are simply phenomena of mind- arising out of conditions and then passing away. They are non-personal with no one behind the emotion to whom it is happening.

Working with our feeling states is a real effort early in our practice. We are habitually conditioned to personalize and identify with our emotions. Quite often, we become so enmeshed in their presence that we cannot discern ourselves to be anything more. Mind training and cultivating the mindsight of open awareness and free attention to see things clearly- as they are- has real power to transform us- and to liberate us from the avoidance or attachment we often experience with our emotions.

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